I might have said it before, but since I was a child, I’ve had only one constant dream : to find my man and get married. This was my lifeline, my refuge. When things weren’t nice, I would think of it, imagine it, make up a big story that would help me escape reality. But with all my past experiences, my mistakes, the many rejections I went through from men, and how I lost myself in all this, my dream got away. I lost the capacity to imagine a love story, because I lost the belief in it.
However, after this huge realization, something happened. I started to converse more with a colleague that I had always appreciated. Nothing took place, nothing will. But my stupid heart started to like him. Why is it stupid ? Because this man is not available, and there is no possiblity for me. My head knew it, but my damn heart chose to ignore it. There is so much one can control ! I am glad he’s not like many, who would cheat and do a lot of crappy stuff. I wouldn’t want to be part of that. But I know we connected, and that i can only be a friendship. And I am SO mad at my stupid heart for caring after this season of hopelessness for someone with which there is no hope ! So I went from… no hope at all, to falling for the wrong person. So really… I am back to no hope. There is no one out there for me. The people who could match my personality, my desires, my expectations, are propbably all taken already anyways. I am not sure if it’s better or worse. But I am mad, I am sad. I don’t get the point of this stupid torture. I don’t get how I can be that pathetic !? Because really, I knew better ! I should have learned…
I might look like a bad person for entertaining those thoughts, and no worries… I have been harsh on myself for it. And I still am. There is nothing to be proud about. I am annoyed and disappointed with myself for being so stupid, for even imagining anything. If I am unable to imagine things with a person that doesn’t exist, but can with someone that I sure cannot have… what does it say about me ? All my time at the therapist, all my prayers, all the decisions I’ve made these past two years… for that. The first man I fall for after the tough breakup and the big turmoil in my life… had to be already taken. Seriously ?? What is wrong with me ?
Now, I am left feeling like a fool. I am sad. I don’t know what to think anymore. I want to hide and sleep for ages. My stomach is all screwed up since… And I am back in a dark place when it comes to love and relationship. I feel too needy, too wanting, and I thought I had passed that stage now. But NO !! Big mistake ! Did I learn anything ? Did I grow really ? I am not sure… and so it makes me fall back down the pit of despair when it comes to finding love, because really I feel unworthy.